Pat Robertson is NOT Biblically sound. He is a dangerous spiritual snare to people. Pat Robertson’s marriage related advice should be discarded! He has made numerous outlandish statements in the past, but most recently he has given appalling NON-Christian counsel to a woman with an adulterous husband whom she wants to forgive. First, here is the actual question from the wife named Ivy, then Pat Robertson’s NON-Christian counsel afterwards:
IVY: I’ve been trying to forgive my husband for cheating on me. We have gone to counseling, but I just can’t seem to forgive, nor can I trust. How do you let go of the anger? How do you trust again? God says to forgive, but it’s been so hard to do. I want to forgive, so we can get on with our lives.
Pat Robertson’s Counseling Secret
(Listen to Pat Robertson’s NON-Christian counsel)
Pat Robertson: All right, here’s the secret. And this is the secret. Stop talking about the cheating. He cheated on you. Well, he’s a man. Okay. So, what you do is begin to focus on why you married him in the first place, on what he does good. Does he provide a home for you to live in? Does he provide food for you to eat? Does he provide clothes for you to wear? Is he nice to the children? Do you have a happy family? Does he take the kids to sporting events? Does he go out and watch their little league games? Does he share with you stuff that’s going on? And is he handsome? Or is he, you know, what is he? … And I recommend that you reach out and touch him. Touch his face. Touch his face. Hold his hand. Look into his eyes. Talk to him … Give him honor instead of trying to worry about it. But recognize also, like it or not, males have a tendency to wander a little bit. And what you want to do is to make a home so wonderful that he doesn’t want to wander.
The Truth
Regarding Ivy personally, Ivy needs to forgive the wicked adulterer for Ivy’s sake! As surprising as it may seem, if Ivy doesn’t forgive him, her sins won’t be forgiven (Mt. 6:14,15). Also, as horribly bad as his wicked abominations were against her, Ivy’s sins against God were 500,000 times worse, according to Jesus (Mt. 18:21-35)! Forgiving others who sin against you is a salvation issue and nothing less, even though unforgiveness is minimized in our apostate day.
Ivy’s adulterous husband is definitely on the road to hell, since no adulterer will inherit God’s kingdom (1 Cor. 6:9,10; Eph. 5:5-7; Rev. 21:8). That husband needs to get radical to get saved from hell and freed from his sin addictions. He needs to repent and commit his life to JESUS to serve him unashamedly in this wicked world. Until he crucifies his flesh, including lust, he will remain a child of the devil, even if he was previously saved. There is NO once saved always saved, as Pat Robertson teaches elsewhere. If he becomes a Christian, he will be set free from his sin addictions and can live holy in the fear of God. His wicked adulterous behavior has nothing to do with being a male, as Pat Robertson says. Any male (or female) who gets saved is freed from his/her sin addictions (Rom. 6:22). Slavery to sin is broken by the supernatural power in Jesus’ blood. Just going to church by itself is useless for this. One must receive God’s word by acting on it to get the desired results.
Pat Robertson gave worthless counsel that any dark and dead atheistic counselor could give! Nothing he said was related to Scripture! Pat Robertson’s massive popularity, in spite of his dangerous deviation from Scripture, reflects our super dark apostate day that we live in. People apparently love his once saved always saved teaching, ecumenical compromise with Catholicism and horrific marriage related counsel, even related to divorce. Folks, remember:
Dear friends, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, because many false prophets have gone out into the world. (1 John 4:1)
Ivy can help him and her own marriage, but not the way Pat Robertson recommends since the husband needs spiritual help. The Bible is the only reliable source to consult for such answers, but one must put it into practice to benefit by it (Lk. 8:21). Ivy should also pray regarding all these things, but her husband needs to pray too and draw near to God by getting the sin out of his life.